Monday, September 11, 2006

A Few Things

Brandy's questions:
1. what is the most under-rated thing about you, and why do you value it more than others do?
--my strength, i even at times under-rate it. but i know because of it, i have risen above and walked through so much. people often mistake this constant smile and my good heart for weakness...ahh but don't back me in a corner lol.
2. what is the most over-rated thing about you, and why do you value it less than others do?
--that i am some oversexed goddess or sex kitten trying to seduce men and women alike...goddess yes, love sex yes, but come on please! i have had a few laughs (and a few tears) over this description of myself...but i am so much ...SO MUCH MORE.
3. whose relationship do you admire, and why?
--in my life right now, it would have to be my Babygirl Eboni and David. He is her everything, and she is his all. I love seeing how he looks at her, the way they seem to blend into one another, the way he calms her, the way she strengthens him...their beautiful love continues to grow, their possibilities are endless.
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i have seen Idlewild twice now, and will see it again if the opportunity arises...second time though this really hit me over the head when i heard it: the one least invested in the relationship has the greatest control!
i mean it doesn't get any plainer than that....
any thoughts or comments?
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4 comments:

Ebony Stewart said...

Hey Shelle. So is the movie really that good? I kinda wanna see it, but I'm not sure if it'll disappoint me. What kind of movie is it?

Angel said...

hell yeah the one that's least invested has the greatest control--because they are the ones with the least to lose!

Shelle said...

eboni, i can't speak for anyone else but i really liked it. based in the 40's...gangster type, musical, animation...all that.

angel...i must disagree with ya on that one. i know of someone who would have a hell of a lot to lose, but because of the emotions involved/or lack of...they have the upper hand. so what is at stake does not matter, its how you react or don't react in the relationship. emotions can be a mofo.

CousinSarah said...

I would have to say that I agree. They are the one least impacted emotionally. While finances, communication, etc may all be affected, the one whose heart is totally on the cutting board, has more emotional wounds to live through and heal through. The one least invested, depending on the depth of "un"investment, they are already partly gone anyway. Investment truly depends on what measure you are going by.