Monday, September 28, 2009

Things I Have Learned Lately...


--i am really ok

--that once again my filter is gone to crap...just don't have time for folks and their insecurities, fakeness, stupidity, lack of warmth...you get the point

--that my voice is stronger because of this (above). i recently voiced something to my father that had been a painful area in my life since i was in high school, although i did not get much acknowledgement or an apology from him...the look in his eyes and me releasing this...well...was quite enough...whew

--that i can be friends with opposing sides without taking sides...and others well i smile and stay in my corner...though that one took a lil longer, 'cause someone i love deeply was/is involved...hey we all got our stuff...no more judgements here

--relationships, no matter how good, tend to ebb and flow...doesn't mean anything is wrong (though sometimes there can be issues), or the love is less or not present...just means that particular day is doing its own thing...no worries

--i like being alone sometimes, and doing my own thing

--being a mother, no matter the kids age, is still tough, heartbreaking, and misguided at times...but oh so rewarding and worth it, every bit of it.

--i am not your average mother, and my kids LOVE me for this...they told me lol

--this is the first time in ANY of my love relationships, i haven't had to worry about the "other" coming in...nor the lies that follow...do you know how friggin' freeing that is? i can love without worries again...thank you baby

--i still am haunted by you...but i am stronger now, fleeting thoughts

--i really don't like when folks cross me...and i am a bit warped lol...snicker but i like it

8 comments:

brandi said...

"--relationships, no matter how good, tend to ebb and flow...doesn't mean anything is wrong (though sometimes there can be issues), or the love is less or not present...just means that particular day is doing its own thing...no worries"

I love love love this... and we can also strive for ebb and flow as opposed to hurricane and tsunami type fluctuations! LOL

bRandy said...

i love all of these...having a hard time picking one or two to comment on specifically. so proud of you with your dad--that was so important. being alone and doing your own thing...yes...so necessary and refreshing sometimes. lol, you are not the average mom--i love you for it too--they are lucky kids. oh and uh...i love your "bit warped"-ness :)

Shelle said...

lol @ brandi...very true

lol @ brandy as well, thank you for many reasons...i know you like it lol

maljazur said...

Where did you find such an awesome picture? Looks like a commissioned portrait of your boo! :-)

Shelle said...

lol, i thought the same thing lisa...

a.d. said...

i love these. so much of what i feel i cannot say. or am afraid to. i hope to be able to fully come into my own one day to express this. and own it.
inspiring. thank you.

bRandy said...

lol@lisa

Shelle said...

ahmani, you can and you will...faith and blessings sis